This is a common experience in that what we are looking for seems to be so far. Just around the turn, around the corner, but somehow out of reach. At some point you do reach the town, and once you are there, you might want to reach another place. And life goes on.
When we find ourselves in those places where it seems a mirage into the future, we forget that life exists in the very road, in the very curves we are trying to get through. It is not that the destination is not important. It might give us encouragement and direction. However, the destination seen is not the life lived. It can be part of your life lived, once you reach the destination, as much as the road under your feet is the life lived in this very moment.
Why is it that you find this moment so lacking? Why do you think that life happens only once you reach your destination? At the end of the day it is still you who reaches that destination, and all destinations and moments are nothing more than a reflection of your very being. So the question is who are you in this moment and why is it that your happiness seems to be projected into those lights in the distance?
Today I want to give you a better road. An inward road. I am not telling you to leave that outward destination on the wayside. Just asking you for a moment to notice the gap. To notice how far you need to go to find happiness. If you ask, why would I want to reach the destination if I already have happiness? Why bother? I would say that the movement forward is in itself part of the experience of fulfillment in life.
There was this woman once. She would sow for a living. She would patch clothing, make it fit better, alter it. She loved her job though she fould find herself dreaming of creating paintings and godly scenes with her thread and colors. But it seemed too out of reach and besides, she would tell herself, how would I maintain my family, and who would help my clients?
So at first she tried putting her dream out of her mind but then found herself sad, depressed even. She started to find her job meaningless, then bothersome. She started thinking she was going nowhere and she wondered about this because, she used love her job and the people she helped. It was as if her dream stole all of her happiness, her satisfaction and fulfillment in her job.
So she looked a little deeper and realized that her dream represented something that was missing in her day to day job. And she realized that she was creating such a big dream for herself because she was thinking that it was not possible to have creativity in her job as it was. So part of her did not want to change her current circumstance. Her job after all, gave her security, stable income for her family, recognition in the community, a relaxing craft among other things. But it did not give her, according to her, creativity. So if she constructed a dream that was far away she could stay safe, there was no need to try to get there.
I am telling you this story because she discovered t the reason she placed her dream so far away was because there was a part of her that she did not want it closer, it was too threatening to her life as it was. This is an important realization, nobody puts the dream so far away. The only one who puts the dream anywhere is you.
So this week I invite you to see if your fulfillment and happiness are placed in a dream and investigate, why does that dream seem to be this far away. Why would I place it so far away? The woman in the story found that her job could have creativity in small ways and bigger ways. They just did not look like her big dream.
She started to create patches with very original designs and would offer to patch some clothing for people. And she was surprised many enjoyed her patches. She started to realize all the other ways she was creative. The way she organized her store, her home, the food she cooked. The way she even interacted with people, so much creativity she brought to those moments. So she realized it wasn’t that far away and her dream did not need to be so far away. She was able to reassess her dream. Maybe it was not the life of this “high artist” that would bring her the happiness and fulfillment she wants. She started focusing in the designs and other things, and her life started to change. Because she understood the heart of her dream.. She understood that her dream existed in the present moment.
So I invite you to examine your dreams, especially if you find them too far away. Or maybe they are the right size and you will know because the road will seem wonderful. Maybe not because it is all beauty or all adventure. But because this is where you would rather be, this is the only road you would take.